As my thoughts wandered over the pages of my very first journal entry for the year, they jumped from idea to idea. I’ve address hopped, church hopped, and job hopped. So many changes have taken place in all areas of my life this year that I’m not even sure where to start.
I’ve moved and unpacked, yet still feel like I’m in someone’s (very ugly, very small) guesthouse. But I chose the address; I signed the papers myself. I’ve replaced stuff that said “we” with stuff that says “me.” I’ve made it a haven for me and for my girls. However, it’s hard not to at least occasionally long for the dream home where we made family memories for 10 years. It’s time, though, to settle into my new home, even if it’s not my dream house.
About 2 years ago, I realized it was time to find a new church home for many reasons, but mostly because it just wasn’t not big enough for me and the ex. I spent a bunch of months either tiptoeing into back rows at 5 after or crying in my bed. Finally, a friend literally dragged me to her church, and it was good. It was a place of healing and encouragement, but it was not a place I ever felt completely settled. I needed more exegetical preaching and more emphasis on reformed theology. I think I’ve found those elements, and I’m starting to settle in. But my reserved nature (For real, I’m reserved in person!) has made it hard to feel completely at ease. It’s time to settle into a new church and to trust people again.
Contrary to popular opinion, full-time jobs teaching college-level English are nearly non-existent, at least here in North Carolina. As a result, I’ve spent the past few years applying for adjunct positions over and over and over again. Some are online and some are face to face. The problem with being an adjunct is that there’s no guarantee of classes from one term (5-16 weeks) to the next; there is zero stability. Stability = steady pay check. This providing for myself financially thing is scary! I’ve applied to a few PhD programs, and I’m hoping for a full fellowship, including a light teaching load. I guess I’m pinning my hopes for stability in my professional life on that, but I won’t know for several months yet.
All of this hopping has me longing for stability. I know my true source of stability comes from God. “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble,” (Ps. 46:1). The real problem, for me anyway, is the waiting.
I would have lost heart, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the Lord! (Ps. 27:13-14).
My challenge for 2015: settle my hopes on the Lord in order to gain true stability. What’s your challenge for the new year?
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My challenge for 2015: Remember my old dreams. Just because they are old, doesn’t mean I am released from pursuing them. Advice from a writing instructor: “Stalk your calling.”
You will make your new home, home. You will be happy again. I’m not a fan of Dr. Phil, but I like when he says that you teach people how to treat you. It sounds like you taught your ex-husband that he is not allowed to treat you with disrespect and that right there is the best lesson you could teach your children. You’re a good mother. You’ll find a new church too.
Some friendly advice: Be open to new friends and new ideas. These are the things that have surprised me in life: Who has stuck with me, who hasn’t, and the many times I’ve been wrong.
Thank you for the encouragement! I love that phrase “stalk your calling”!
Ironically, I thought of your blog just today and was going to send you a message or go looking for myself to see what you have written recently. Anyway, wishing you a very blessed New Year and that God will bring much good and stability.
Thanks, Bill. The answer is that I neglected my poor blog for the past 7 months! Hope you guys are all well.
A good post, daughter. I’ve neglected my blog as well–too many other things grab my attention.
Thanks, Dad. You need to get your new book on your blog!! I should do a book review of it here; the topic fits perfectly.